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Down Sizing The Clutter

December13
By: Nat

Through past years I had heard the phrase downsize your life. Tom Shadyack did the movie, I AM and introduced his journey of downsizing his life and finding meaning of true happiness. The Young Turks did this amazing video interview with Mr. Shadyack where he spoke very candidly.

I enjoy watching Ted talks and more recently I came across one  video  that spoke to me on multiple levels. These two friends created a blog called the minimalists wanting to improve their rich lives . Eliminating the clutter around you and inside of you frees up space to be a more productive, influential, healthy member to your community and the world around you.

I believe true happiness, joy are fleeting moments, we are wired with cognition , mood, feelings so what we experience, read, see, hear brings about different ways of thinking, seeing what is around us.  Are we truly objective or is the clutter in our minds/brains blinding/blocking us from a better way of seeing, hearing, being in the present moment of our interactions with nature and nurture ?  I believe many of us are cluttered materialistically and mentally,  we need to organize, downsize our physical/mental baggage to see what is going on around us.  We are consuming more junk than we can process or enjoy.  Do not rush, do not move on to the next bigger better deal, learn how to be happy with what is manageable, affordable, worry free able, loveable.

There Is No Separation Between Nature And Humans ! It Is One Of Our Many Relation Ships

December11
By: Nat

We are meant to live together in harmony and respect all living things.   The land that us humans occupy existed way before we settled in, we came later, so when do we start respecting all living things that came before us ?  Many are clueless and need to read their history of the earth and the centuries of history of us.  I do not know everything however I want to respect all the beauty that is created.  I only have to look around outside, and then my  human anatomy  to be blown away of all that exists.  There is so much hate, destruction of our ecology, mistreatment of the weak ( elders, children, animals, disabled, different)  when is it going to stop ?  When are each of us going to be the change we want to see in the world ?

Relationships, Relation Ships

December6
By: Nat

Anything worth having in life requires dedicating time to it. When you are single and off on your own, you only worry about yourself,your shelter, your food supply, your sustainability in the world. Life is easy for one.  Then one day  you stumble upon and meet a human that reflects a lot of your fundamental beliefs/values, a friendship and romantic chemistry that is all encompassed, it’s magic, it’s rare, its kismet!  You make the decision to progress forward with this magical connection, testing it out, making sure its real and not fleeting. Through  time, some individuals escalate the testing to live in the same space and incorporate both lives together, the sustainability now becomes 2 instead of one. So living in the same space brings a slew of  testing elements, each individual brings their way of being, thinking, to the romantic relationship. Within a loving, romantic relationship there has to be a wonderful friendship, and then an awesome individual relationship with our self. Keeping yourself intact is your job, people, places things just enhance your world experience.

Our way of being begins from nurture and nature, our genetics map us (our parents, grandparents, maybe great grandparents, maybe skipping generations) so does your upbringing, in and out of the home  we are raised for those 18 years. Not everyone gets that amount of time, it varies on ones circumstances, their life. Not everyone has or gets siblings, or both parents, or even parents. So as infants we are taught and hopefully guided to perfect our motor skills  , and protect our tender brain spot to help us develop into the adults that we become.  Our personalities develop by 6 and then parents add or subtract from our learning curve, and then we start to add or subtract stuff along our independence journey.

For my first 20 years of life I lived under my parents roof, and they tried to teach me the lessons of life, being responsible, independent, tools to defend myself through my way in the world.  So I had 20 years of juggling advise and observing a couple demonstrate their love, to each other and how they presented their love and their genders to myself and my siblings.  So there are all these relationships going on with each other as well as how my female and male role-model  parents interact with each other, us,individually, and together as a family.  There is a lot going on within the family you are raised in, and there are things that are instilled in you, and when children are finding, and discovering  themselves, parents play a very influential part in the process.

These are stages and dots that I have been connecting and continue to connect in my life.  Introspection and analyzing everything, choices, emotions,people,places and things in my life.

I have data that I collected being raised in my family home, then when I moved away into my own home, being single, I put all my tools, nurture, nature things to test. I had old and new data to analyze, what I was taught as a child and then what I learned being on my own, making all my decisions based on guidance and tools taught to me by my parents. The example they displayed of their loving relationship between a man and woman, their individual gender roles of how a woman and man behave, ( whatever genders a child is raised with) the responsibility that they demonstrated with finances, jobs/work ethic, hygiene, in their choices of behavior towards each other and us. I took all that data and then with  my experiences incorporated all of it into my way of being and thinking. One thing that I found is that children tend to repeat what they learned from their experience in their families.  You observe 18 years of a relationship being played out before your eyes and ears.  Think about how TV influences the masses, so parents definitely leave a mark on their children. That is why you always hear break the cycle whether it is our own world history or our own personal family history that we want to improve.  As Humans we are not perfect, our genetic make up, genes passed down from generations,nature/nurture, effects us all in different ways. So take everything you are exposed to, analyze it and try to improve yourself, what ever predisposed and new data you are dealing with.

Is The Human Race Getting Lazier ?

October28
By: Nat

I was watching a recent episode of Survivor and the players distinguished themselves between old school strategist and the new strategist. It is a struggle between the old way and the new way of doing things. Are the younger generations lazier, entitled, or is technology showing them they can work smarter not harder ?

As the world evolves, so does the human race.  I do not think that Americans, the younger generations, are opposed to, or gave up on manual labour ,they are seeing new ways to work, and that the older ways were not very beneficial or fair to dedicated loyal employees. Many Corporations have not been good to their employees for decades. Women are still fighting for equal pay, minimum wage is not at a practical hourly rate for the cost of living.  The youth are growing up in a time of transparency at their fingertips and they want a better way, or they will find one. I feel they want better for themselves and the world they live in. Corporations destroy the ecology for their gain, its a destroying cycle that the younger generations want to change.

A lot of company’s moved their business out of the U.S., or they do not want to pay decent wages.  The math does not add up when companies make huge profits and employees barely make enough to make ends meet. Corporations that get away without paying taxes, if they can do it, then so should citizens. They have to many loop holes, umbrellas of protection, a lot of power and money compared to the hard working individuals that contribute, make profits for these greedy company s. Do not get me started on the IRS either !  I would love to hear  the assesments that the youth have about the world they are living in  and how it affects their views on work, privacy, corporations, technology, race, sexuality.

 

Ball Game Nights

October9
By: Nat

This Monday and Tuesday night I went to see my nephew play ball. I enjoy watching him.  This is one of my favorite seasons of the year to be outdoors. So being outdoors, watching the skills that the children are developing, especially my nephew, is a great time. It is a real treat, and many of these moments only happen once.  Landon will never be 7 again( Madison will never be 7, Bryce 13, Nathan 16, Alyson 18, all my nephews and nieces ). I have always had a profound respect, adoration for children. They are beautiful young people with beautiful open hearts and minds. Adults have a huge responsibility to respect, love and do right by these smart absorbing sponges.

Landon’s Fall Ball

October3
By: Nat

I went to my nephew Landon’s baseball game last night, and enjoyed it. He transitioned from tee-ball to coach-pitch in a matter of 2 months this year.  It is amazing how quickly young people soak it all in like sponges, transition seamlessly through change.  His Giants team is made up of really good  7-8 year old players. There are a lot of good hitters on his team, and they work together really well.  Its amazing to witness his growth from playing tee ball to now.

There are several ball fields were he plays and as we were leaving something stuck out. There was a field of handicap children ranging in different ages, playing tee ball.  They had their volunteers next to them, assisting them. It’s wonderful that there are people who dedicate their time to helping out, to make it possible for the mentally and physically challenged to do regular things.

Coco

October1
By: Nat

Last week was the first time I have walked a dog since Sandy has been gone (end of January 2013).  Coco is a 2 yr old weimaraner. She belongs to a neighbor who has a bad leg, he asked if I would mind walking her on occasion.  She is used as a service dog, I have not seen that side of her. It was kind of a weird feeling walking with her at first, different, it wasn’t my Sandy, it  brought up sadness, and me missing her instantly. I had a moment and then while we were walking I was thinking it was meant to be for me to have this experience with Coco.  A dog is being introduced back into my world. Eventually I will get another dog. Things pop up in mysterious ways, and at unexpected times to you, and I am re learning to not analyze and just go with the flow, with the now.  I have struggled for a while with just working no playing, no balance, and not really living, enjoying all the great things outside in the world. I look forward, and toward what is possible.  I have always been a true believer that anything is possible.  I still have love to give another dog, there is still plenty of love after loss, time is the great healer.  There are imprints, markings that people,things that we love, or have loved, leave in our hearts. The marks will be there always, even with whatever new gets added, kind of like scar tissue. Some marks are painful reminders, and others just leave you with a smile.

Self Awareness, Introspection For The ADD/ADHDers

September29
By: Nat

I have found that there are people who are oblivious to themselves.  They can do no wrong, everyone one else is the problem, the trouble maker, they are the victims in every situation. People with ADD have this  huge social issue that they are not even aware of.  I was not even aware of  the convoluted issues associated with ADD/ADHD. I stumbled on this page and it was mind blowing.  Where is the accountability for their actions ? How do they get help ? How do they help themselves ?  ADD individuals think everything happens to them, or at them. We all have to know who we are and make peace or find peace with things that have broken our hearts, angered us. Self awareness is hard enough for most individuals without a mental disorder, so add that challenge to the mix. I think people have to dive deep within themselves  and trace all the things that impacted their lives negatively, and realize they were isolated instances, that not everyone, or everything is out to hurt them.

I have mentioned mental disorders before, and I do so because we never know what or who we are dealing with. Never judge a book by its cover, there is so much beauty and good however not understanding something can misdiagnose a persons true being.

 

I Miss My Beautiful Dog

September20
By: Nat

On my last post, my heart was chipped away when Sandy died. My world seems different without her in it, she was my family.  I’ve posted this picture before but I’m going to do it againMadison Massaging Sandy. That is my niece Madison (several years ago) with her best buddy Sandy.  I am horrible about photos and now I wish I would have taken many more of her.  She will always be in my heart, and in my mind.

Brandon Fouche is my hero ! If you have a chance look him up. Here is a video that is needed for dog owners. I’ve posted stuff on him before.  Louis Theroux another hero of mine did a documentary on, City of Dogs, in LA on the over population of unwanted dogs, strays , overcrowded dog shelters. He also brought attention to dogs that are labeled difficult, unable to be rehabilitated.  Brandon Fouche says he has never met a dog that could not be rehabilitated. We as humans are not doing right by theses animals, or our own, and we need to learn to do right by them.  We need to live in harmony and celebrate the things they teach and  improvements they bring to our lives.

For that matter, we need to spread love and include all people, things and places that are mistreated.

What Does A Broken Heart Look Like ?

September19
By: Nat

So far in my 46 years of life  I have had very few instances of heartbreak. Thru the journey of life we lose important people close to us, or certain things come to a tragic end. My parents are moving on in age,  the natural progression of life is that the elders pass on before the young, however we know that is not true. My family is still in tact, they are all still here with me and I have to live and experience it for as long as I have it.

Some  people face a broken heart earlier in life. I wonder if someone can be so emotionally scarred that they never live an open honest life of being vulnerable ever again? Our brain and our heart, two of the major life sustaining organs we live by that effect our emotional and physical wellness.  Most people expose their heart to the people they love. It can bring you to your knees when you have journeyed through life with the most beautiful unconditional loves your heart and mind have been privileged to experience.

We do not always do the best with our time, or really show or verbalize our truest vulnerable self, we all do what we know how at the time, that is why we have to dig deep within our self  when we want to be an example of what we want in our life.  When our communication and actions do not convey or express what we truly want to say, or what we need, we should always aspire to strive for that, be better to ourselves and to the world inclusive around us! We never know when things will no longer be visible, tangible, responsive, final to us.

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